We have each likely been trained to be nice people
I once had a long-running debate with a former co-worker about being “nice.” She wanted to be known as a “nice” person. My argument was that you only get called “nice” when there’s nothing much anyone can say about you. It’s an adjective that doesn’t add much. There were so many adjectives, even slightly negative ones, that I would have preferred to “nice.”
Yet, we have each likely been trained to be nice people. How many times were you sent outside with the advice to “play nice?” Or when being corrected you were told to “be nice.” This generic term likely had a different definition, depending on whether it came from your parents, teachers, or others in authority. Sometimes it meant to share or be quiet. Many times, it was direction to follow the rules, give the right answer, or participate in a group. Even your siblings probably reported you for not being nice at least once or twice.
It’s about not being an inconvenience
Being “nice” was important for the development of humankind. It kept humans safe and provided rules of order so we could survive as a species. The concept of “niceness” is still relevant today when we translate it as being kind and respectful. Intruding on someone’s free will by manipulating their choices, stealing, killing, maiming, raping, or generally hurting their sense of well-being carries negative Karma that has consequences.
However, many of the rules of “niceness” you learned as a child were about not being an inconvenience to others, especially those in authority. Your parents craved peace. Teachers needed you to hear. The preacher didn’t like being interrupted. And your friends wanted you to share.
Being “nice” is about being compliant. Many of us still have this desire to play the “nice” game and reap the rewards. We believe if we are nice, we will get a nice partner in life and live in a nice neighborhood. If we work hard, we can get a nice job and make lots of money, then we can earn the respect of other nice people. Nice people also go to heaven!
Nice guys finish last
Let’s face it. There are a lot of perfectly “nice” people in the world who live into messages from their upbringing about success, relationships, purpose, and getting along with others. And yet they find themselves barely getting by, failing to find joy, love, and satisfaction in their lives. This is what it means when we say, “Nice guys finish last.”
What is missing from most unhappy lives is not “niceness.” They are missing a connection to their divine nature. If our Divine Soul Blueprint is configured for us to express our artistic side, then working in the family business likely won’t bring us success or abundance, let alone happiness. If our divine nature is to operate independently, then being a stay-at-home mom won’t bring us joy. We may meet the needs of others for a short time, but if we aren’t meeting our own needs we will quickly burn out and disappoint everyone. Working harder and sticking with something that does not align with who we are will only bring us frustration and stagnation. It puts us into a state of lack.
The clothes we wear, who we love, how we love, the face we want the world to see, and the things we want to communicate are part of our divine self-expression and they don’t make us nice or bad people. However, expressing our true Self may make us inconvenient for others, especially those who feel there are specific rules of “niceness.” Not expressing our Divine Nature is dangerous to our own well-being and makes it nearly impossible to put love and kindness out into the world, and impossible to feel like a nice person.
Begin by finding your own true nature.
Finding your true nature is not naval gazing, nor is it passive work. It requires learning inconvenient truths about yourself and then making new choices to experience a new outcome. It is unlearning rules that are in the best interests of others. And then having the courage to disrupt the patterns that have kept you in lack.
Are you ready to find your true nature? Are you ready to find happiness, and abundance? A Soul Realignment Reading will give you the details in your Divine Soul Blueprint so you can make new choices that lead you to abundance.